she and him or I

a life, in lovely font.

1. Will 4.27.09 / 10am

   Don’t take them illegally. You need the bloodwork and other labs done. You need a therapist so you can discuss the crazy-ass changes that will take place in your brain when you start taking the T.

   Sure, if you can manage getting on T before puberty has completed itself, that’s great. However, women’s bodies continue to change until about 25 years old. So, even if you have to wait until you’re 18, you’re still going to be able to avoid some of the “problems” with going through puberty.

   Also? I started hormones at 26. I pass as a guy 100%.

   Trust me, your voice will lower, you’ll grow some hair in places, and no one will really question your gender. They may take you for a gay man (still happens to me sometimes, but whatever) but still a *man*.

   People say that there aren’t *that* many psychological changes. They’re wrong. If you have any idea of how your brain currently works, of your desires and needs, if you’re tapped in to WHO YOU ARE, you *will* notice changes, no matter how much you consider yourself to be a man now or have considered yourself as male for years, whatever.

   Now, if it’s suicide or illegal T, that’s a no brainer.

   But if you’re not that close to a ledge, take deep breaths, and wait. Work on other things. Write up a complete plan of what you want to do (even if it changes 3 months later) from T to name change to surgery to whatever.

   Talk to other trans guys who have their heads on straight. Avoid the ones filled with drama. Trust me, you don’t need that and there are plenty of crazy trannies and sane trannies. Pick the sane ones.

   Be honest – with your shrink and your doctor. If you wind up taking the hormones, tell them. And one thing no one ever told me until I was about 27 or so – if you don’t like your doctor, find a new one. If you think your doc isn’t listening, find a new one. And keep looking until you find one that’s great and that listens to you and that doesn’t think you’re a freak. They exist. You may have to travel or move or get different insurance or pay for it out of pocket, etc, but they do exist. And having them make the whole process much easier, and more affirming instead of uncomfortable and something you wish to avoid.

   - Will

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2. outsideeyes 4.27.09 / 5pm

   Please, do not take illegal hormones, your freinds freind may say they’re ok, but there is no gaurrentte they’ve actually been nicked from a hospital or the back of a medical van, they could easily be bottled water refilled or -anything- else, even if they are “genuine” (that time round) next time they might not be, also there’s the side-effects to consider, will has some good advice, if your going to do this, do it right even if that takes longer.

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